Oh No You didn’t: The Top 3 Reasons you’re still there

Ever been somewhere that you have no real clue why you have been for so long? Not like, “It’s 3 am and I’m still out here waiting for this stupid bus.” No, no I mean a place in your life, that you almost let yourself forget that you had any kind of control over. A bad relationship? A worse Job? Whatever the situation, allow me to shed some light on why you are there and by the end, Good old Zeek can hit you with a few good ways that you might, just might be  able to get yourself out of the pickle in time to live your life again.

Reason Number 1. You felt as though you didn’t have any other options

Oooooo. I know that one probably struck a nerve in somebody just now, but let me explain. You see, as humans we crave very few things in this world, perhaps not in comparison to our other brethren from the animal kingdom, but in essence it’s a pretty small list. We want Happiness, whatever that means. We want to create families which is completely understandable, and there are a few hit or miss items that you may or may not have on your list of wants and needs. However, the third that I am going to mention is stability. We crave stability like it is nobody;s business. So much, so that many of us are willing to completely override all of our other feelings and desires just to have it. It’s the reason that Ms. Gets smacked continues to let Mr. Smack do her like a pinata. It’s also the reason that many of us will stay in jobs that we know very well we hate.  Don’t worry I won’t just be saying this stuff, I can hit you with some statistics as well, hell even I am a prime example.

I worked at McDonald’s for a period of my life. Now, did I do it out of necessity? If you would have asked me back when I did it, I would have told you time and time again that yes, it was because I had no “choice”. However this was in high school, you know what bills had to pay in high school? One, my  phone bill, and why? because i bought the phone for myself. I was in no way shape or form stuck. Now as a result of my not quitting for 3 years, and letting myself get to bed at the dumbest hours of the night for high school, I began to fall behind in class. This was not a fair exchange, my grades, something that would affect whether or not I would get into college, for a few measly Mcbucks at the moment was not smart. I’ll tell you later what I should have done.

Those Stats Tho

Let’s play some number games shall we?  Ok here are a few things to take into consideration.

  • 52.3 % of Americans are unhappy at work as of 2014 according to a study by he conference board, a new york based non-profit group.
  • A survey taken in 1987 reported that 61.1% of people liked their job. That’s a large percentage over where we are currently.

http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2014/06/20/most-americans-are-unhappy-at-work/

Reason Number 2. Maybe you could learn to love it?

Let me be clear. Very, Very clear. If this thought ever runs across your mind whether it’s in a job or relationship or anything else that is actually important to your happiness. Shut. Up. Don’t ever let that be something that you really feel you need to do. Doing the opposite is pretty much being a glutton for punishment. No one wants to spend a good part of their life learning to love something when they honestly already know what they should love. Case in point, any Maury episode Ever.

Reason Number 3. You’re too lazy to go find something else. 

Picture this. It’s 3 am. you have a job that pretty much guarantees that you will have to get up for these sorts of hours, but it’s not to go to something that you really want to even imagine yourself doing for your entire life. Honestly, you don’t want to do it today. Now the fix to this is so easy it doesn’t even make any sense, find another job. However, somehow days turned to weeks, weeks to months, etc. Epiphany, you finally apply to go somewhere else, and you get no response for what seems like an eternity. So?! Keep applying. No one is going to call you at random and ask that you come work for them, and if they do, you don’t need to read this post silly goose. You silly, lucky, goose.

So although I pretty much just gave you exactly what you should do in this kind of situation, let me reiterate. Leave, you can stay as long as you absolutely have to but please for the sake of your own life, leave. it’s not going to just up and get any better for you without you putting in the work to improve your own life, and at the end of the day, that’s all this is even about. Self-improvement.

Welcome Back, Welcome Back…

After what I am going to call the longest unnecessary hiatus from what a person naturally does, since Dave Chappelle, I am back ladies and germs, ready to relay all of the strange happenings in my life as of late, and maybe help someone in the process. So, lets get started.

I have been having some of the craziest days in my life lately. I’ve watched some people pass, I’ve lost a few people, made some new friends and all while managing to avoid wordpress, whether on purpose or not, I don’t know. In any case, this is merely an update post letting those who are reading my old posts and may be new to the blog, that I am indeed alive. The stories have to get started somewhere.

I’ll be posting something new as often as humanly possible for someone in my predicament, but I want them to be quality posts, as opposed to a glorified facebook status. So here’s the deal folks, I’ll catch you all back here very soon, but until then, ta ta for now.

Dude… Who’s the Baby?

So now that I have actually added photos of myself, I’m sure there are a number of readers that are a tad bit confused by what I had at the end of my most recent post.This my friends is what I like to call an explanation. So sit tight and I can make everything as clear as it needs to be. I’ll start from the very beginning.

Chance meeting

About 60 Billion years ago, alright let me serious, in the spring of 2013 I was working at a shoe store and was still trying to figure out a lot about where my life was going . To make this journey even worse, I had recently turned 21, and Alcohol was calling my name. I had it all planned out, I was going to have this party at my crib t o celebrate it coming in a little while after. So, as it were, my brain was not focused on much of the right stuff. Mostly, booze, broads, and how I could get out of where I was working. Around this same time, there was this girl, many girls, but specifically there was this one. She had recently gotten a job working at the same store and after a number of conversations, convo’s for all you cool kids, I kind of started to like this girl. Funny thing was, I had almost no idea how to go about it without making it awkward if she rejected me. Now, there was also another problem. I was 21, and she had just given birth barley two prior to a little girl.

Decisions, Decisions

I talked it out with myself and a few other people in regard to whether or not I should try and bag her. That sounds way worse than it actually is. Anyway, one day comes up and I find out about the situation with the father, who is now her ex- husband. “She was married”?!!! “You’re going to hell Isaiah”!!?? Relax, person I’ve never met, they were separated for a good minute. However, I still hadn’t told her how I felt and it was going on about a month. I was still talking to other girls, but I really wasn’t sure about how to get into the situation, I mean I had left some subtle hints with some questions before, but I didn’t go too far yet. Then the day of my party, she informs me that she is going to quit.

Like a Boss

My heart dropped into pants and I continued talking and she informed me that she was going to the back to tell our boss that that day would be her last as an employee there. I told her that when she returned I wanted to tell her something. She went to the back and I had an inner monolog that went something like this.

Viewer Discretion is Advised

“Look Pussy, get it together because she’s leaving today”!!

“So what? I don’t care. There’s plenty of other fish in the sea.”

“Yea, but I know you. You want the big fish, the one that you have inner monologues with yourself about.”

“This isn’t the time to joke self, she’s really leaving and I don’t want to let her go without telling her how I feel.”

“Well, this is a prime time to tell her Dickhead, she’s not going to be here anymore, so if she says no, there is no awkward few weeks or whatever where you see her and go, shit I should have kept it to myself.”

“You know what? You’re right. I’m doing it, besides, my party is tonight, if it doesn’t go well with her, I don’t give a fuck.”

*Hi fives self*

“So cool I’m finally going to do this.”

“Hey, does anyone else notice that she’s back now?”

“Shit.”

Moment of truth

She came back and said that she did it. I told her that I wanted to tell her something. I pulled her to the side and I told her that I wanted to date her, but in my strange frantic Zeek sort of way. To my surprise she asked me if I was going to take her number down. Ho-Lee-Shit.  That worked? That friggin worked?! I am a genius!! So, I had my party and that’s a story for another time entirely, but the next morning I woke up about an hour after I needed to be at work, only because I got to sleep about 2 hours prior, long story. I get a phone call from my boss and he wants to know where I am, so I rush out and get there in about 15. I lived really close thank god. I get to the front door open it and inside is the girl who’s number I got. She told me that she had changed her mind. This made my confusion a little less serious.

A Dope Friendship

After a while of dating her without others in the store being any the wiser, I met the baby. This happened  one day when I was in the aisles. This small, Hispanic woman walks in with a baby in a stroller, if you knew where I worked, you would understand exactly why this was not out of the ordinary. However, my job entailed that I greeted each customer and informed them of the sales that were happening at the time. I did not do this. I didn’t even say hello. I was so sick of the job that I kind of checked out already, I’m sure some of you have to know that feeling. I stayed exactly where I was and stared into space. Then the girl that I was talking to comes from the back and begins talking to the woman. I then realized that this was her mom, and the baby inside of the stroller was her daughter. I walked over as the other employees did, and saw this little face. She was just chilling. Some people began trying to talk to the baby, and I didn’t know what to do so I just made a face. She laughed immediately, and I’ve been making her laugh ever since.

Now

I have been with my girlfriend, Jessica for almost two years now, and I’ve been with the baby Natalie since she was 2 months. This experience has taught me a whole heck of a lot. I can’t wait to see what the future holds. Am I her blood father? No. Might I just be the guy her mom is with? Maybe. But if the way that her and her mother respond to me is any indication of what the future holds, She  may already be my daughter, and we’ll be just fine.

Conclusion 

Now that you guys have a little more information about me, feel free to drop a comment below, I’d love to hear from you, and as always be easy you guys, next up Photo time, I’ve been working on something with someone recently and I think you all are going to like it a lot.

Never Do this Before Bed

Sleep. We all need it. Some get too little of it, and others do it far too often. The thing that I love the most about sleep, when I do it anyway, is that when I wake up generally it’s the next morning. I don’t really like naps because you might wake up and have no daylight, and for a morning person like me the sun is the one thing needed to get off to a great start. However, there is a part of the sleeping process that occurs that can be a love or hate kind of thing for me. That thing is dreaming. Whether you’re a couple months or went to school with Jesus, you have had dreams. Not the kind of, “Man, I’d really like to be this when I grow up” dream, but the ” Why is this Carrot trying to eat me!!” kind. Now scientists do research on these happenings every day and to me what is the most interesting about the dream is that we apparently have 3-5 a night, some even have 7.

Now scientists do research on these happenings every day and to me what is the most interesting about the dream is that we apparently have 3-5 a night, some even have 7. Of these dreams, I would imagine that some are a little weirder than others, but what I wanted to know was how to avoid the weirder ones. For example, when I was a kid, I have had tons of strange dreams, none stranger than when I was being chased down my old block in Philadelphia by the Energizer Bunny. I get it, he kept going, and going, and going, but don’t for a second  alright, because that bunny was the most terrifying thing in the world to me that night. In any case, regardless of how weird the dream was, I did notice some things that may or may not be true for others but most certainly were true to me.

Junk Food

I cannot tell you how many ridiculous nights of dreaming I have had after a night of eating something that I knew good and well I should not have been eating. Pizza, Chinese, Doritos, whatever the evening asked for, It never fails, a good bit of junk will always result in a great bit of waking up in the middle of he night because of dreams I had.

Images

Dude. Have you ever watch the show Gangland? It’s this show on The History Channel right? Where basically guys who have been involved in gangs are interviewed and asked about their golden days in said gang. Each episode a different gang is profiled. Sound cool right? I know. Sometimes it’s even funny, there have been so many times that I’ve watched and my mind has been blown with the level of ignorance. For example one episode a man in his forties who ingeniously changed his name to something more befitting of his character, said something along these lines.

“They taught me that you had to be 95 percent mental and 15 percent physical.”

I’m not a mathematician, but that sounds off somehow. Anyway, I would watch this show before bed for months previously and sometimes still do, and yes, It has effected my dreams. I once dreamt that I was on that same block in Philly and I  was trying to take my tv out of my old house. For some reason, there was a Crip and an inmate at the end of the block and they wouldn’t let me pass them. Then they started chasing me until I get to an old neighbors house who in this dream is a blood and asks me to join his gang. Thank god I woke up or else I might have gotten jumped in.

Being upset about something

Finally on my list of things not to do before bed, is having anything on your mind that could bother you. Sometimes I know it can be a little difficult, but it could truly manifest in your dreams. Most of the things that we dream about are what we were thinking about subconsciously anyway, and if you have something on your mind bothering you, try and deal with it before you have to sleep. Anger and worry used to be my big two feelings that would almost always result in messed up dreaming.

Wrap Up

In sum, I hope this little list helped you out in some way. It sure has helped me, but I want to know, what things mess up your sleep? What gives you weird dreams? Drop a comment and let me know, I’m a knowledge hound and any tip is greatly appreciated. Until next time, Happy dreaming!

Also, here’s a quick sneak peak of a future post.